CERTIFIED ATTACHMENT COACH · IAT · DBT · CBT-INFORMED

Attachment coaching for people who understand their patterns — and are ready to change them.

Certified online attachment coaching for high-functioning adults and couples who want to understand and change avoidant, fearful avoidant, and recurring relationship patterns.

INTEGRATED ATTACHMENT THEORY · DBT SKILLS · CBT-INFORMED TOOLS
ONLINE · ENGLISH & GERMAN · BASED IN BERLIN · WORKING INTERNATIONALLY

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Applications reviewed personally · Individual & Couples Coaching

RECOGNITION

When self-awareness has taken you as far as it can.

Many people who come to this work are already self-aware. They have read about attachment theory. They know the language. They may have done therapy, coaching, journaling, inner work, or years of reflection.

They can explain the pattern clearly. Then a real-life moment happens — closeness, conflict, emotional expectation, vulnerability, distance, or a message that touches a wound — and the body responds before the mind can organize it.

  • You want closeness and distance at the same time.

  • You feel calm when someone is unavailable, then overwhelmed when they become present.

  • You shut down, withdraw, overthink, lose attraction, become critical, or feel pressure where you expected safety.

  • You understand the pattern and still repeat it.

This is where insight becomes the starting point for deeper change.

WHO THIS WORK IS FOR

For high-functioning adults, men, women, and couples who recognize recurring relationship patterns.

This practice is designed for people with avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment patterns, and for people who experience a mix of independence, longing, distance, intensity, and protection in relationships.

  • Avoidant Patterns

    Distance, shutdown, pressure, loss of clarity, or withdrawal around closeness.

  • Fearful Avoidant Patterns

    Push-pull dynamics, emotional intensity, protection, and longing in the same system.

  • Emotional Shutdown

    Moments where your body closes before you can explain what is happening.

  • Shame & Self-Criticism

    Loops that appear after activation, conflict, vulnerability, or perceived failure.

  • Couples Cycles

    Recurring relational patterns between two attachment systems.

  • Secure Functioning

    More grounded relating with yourself, partners, family, friends, and colleagues.

WHAT WE WORK ON

The full architecture of your attachment pattern.

We work with what happens underneath the repeated behavior: attachment style, core wounds, subconscious beliefs, emotional triggers, nervous system responses, shame cycles, self-criticism, needs, boundaries, communication, and real-life behavioral integration.

  • Attachment style and relational strategies

  • Core wounds and early emotional imprints

  • Subconscious belief systems

  • Emotional triggers and activation patterns

  • Nervous system responses

  • Shame, guilt, self-criticism, and perfectionism

  • Needs, boundaries, and communication

  • Behavioral integration in real life

THE METHOD

A structured method for attachment change.

This practice is designed for people with avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment patterns, and for people who experience a mix of independence, longing, distance, intensity, and protection in relationships.

  • Integrated Attachment Theory

    The map: attachment style, core wounds, emotional needs, subconscious beliefs, and protective strategies.

  • DBT Skills

    The tools: emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness.

  • CBT-Informed Tools

    The thought work: identifying interpretations, cognitive loops, self-criticism, and emotional reasoning.

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HOW WE WORK TOGETHER

A clear process from application to integration.

1

You apply

2

I review your application personally

3

We clarify fit

4

We map your attachment architecture

5

We work through the right format

6

You integrate new responses into real life

WORK WITH ME

Three ways to begin.

Attachment & Relational Pattern Audit

2 x 50 minutes · €300

A focused deep-dive session to identify your core pattern and next steps.

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12-Week Secure Attachment Integration

12 sessions · Application required

Structured coaching to rewire patterns and build lasting relational change.

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Couples Attachment Consulting

Online · €260 per session

Attachment-based support for couples who want to understand and shift their cycle.

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THE 12-WEEK PROCESS

From insight to secure functioning.

The 12-week process is designed to move you from awareness into secure functioning through repeated internal and behavioral shifts.

  1. Mapping your attachment architecture

  2. Understanding core wounds and belief systems

  3. Regulation, rewiring, and new responses

  4. Integration into real life

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ABOUT NADINE SCHEEL

Certified Attachment Coach · IAT · DBT · CBT-Informed Work

I help high-functioning adults and couples understand their attachment patterns and create real, lasting change. My approach is warm, direct, and structured — with depth, clarity, and practical tools you can use in real life.

BASED IN BERLIN · WORKING INTERNATIONALLY · ENGLISH & GERMAN

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Free Avoidant Attachment Pattern Audit

A structured self-assessment to help you identify your core patterns, triggers, and what to work on next.

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You can build a more secure way of relating.

The first step is an application. I review every application personally.

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